Life moves so quickly. In the spirit of V-day week, take a moment to examine which of your needs aren’t being met. I have a terrible habit of putting everyone before myself and at the end of a long week of incessant to-dos, I’m physically and emotionally exhausted. You’d like to think that someone would recognize that you have enough on your own plate and save you the trouble of saying ‘no’ to his or her needs for a day—but that just doesn’t happen. So what can you do to bring yourself back to center?
Write yourself a letter. Be the voice of the friend you need at that moment and show some compassion to yourself. Ask how you’re feeling, what you need and express the one thing that would totally make your day. Take a moment and think about what the response would be and, if it’s within reason, give yourself permission to indulge. For me, it’s often a trip to my favorite sushi spot in the city or a visit to Gravely Point to watch the planes land. I like to call this process 'writing high' because it forces you to think from a more elevated position than where you currently are mentally.
Know what it takes to make you smile and feel loved. Is it a song? A favorite quote? An image? Make a decision, at that moment, to be who you want to be instead of who you have to be in order to survive your life. Looking to others to make you happy can leave you empty, so be prepared with your own emotional emergency kit and a smile will always be within reach.
xo, august & pepper
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